When You Think You Have Heard It All

When marriage is no longer defined as the union between a man and a woman, it is no surprise that some want to adulterate its meaning further.  

It’s now June, and most of us are accustomed to the onslaught of LGBTQ flags flying at governmental buildings, commercials of everyday products featuring rainbows, and public displays of nudity and immorality at pride parades.  But did you expect to see social media feeds and mainstream news outlets reporting on the new and equally unnatural trend of women marrying themselves?  But alas, this is 2023, and nothing is as it should be. 

CNN, Insider, and Stylist have all reported on this bizarre “forever after” attempt at happiness called solo gamy. Some of the women who marry themselves go all in, replete with a full-length white gown, flowers, bridesmaids, a multi-tiered cake, a fancy reception, and of course, guests. There was even one woman who presented herself with an engagement ring that she designed for herself.

Talk about a narcissistic approach to life. Instead of giving of themselves to others in their single state of life, these women turn their attention inward trying to fill the huge void they feel. They are on a fool’s journey as the happiness they so desperately crave will never materialize, regardless of how many rings, dresses, or parties they give themselves.

As the words of the Prayer of St. Francis tell us, “It is in giving that we receive.” And the giving here refers to giving yourself entirely and selflessly to others as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, or friend. It does not mean treating yourself lavishly and being the center of attention.

This insanity is undoubtedly an outgrowth of the feminist movement, which has induced women to cast off the roles they were physically and psychologically created for.  Feminism has lied to women that the only way to happiness is to become empowered by pursuing a career at the expense of everything else. No wonder many women are single and alone when placing their proverbial eggs in the corporate basket. Proponents claim that women who marry themselves are just trying to raise their self-esteem and accept themselves for who they are. While loving yourself as a son or daughter of God is essential, this spectacle is taking that line of thinking to its extreme.

If one is so insecure that the only way you can accept yourself is by staging a faux wedding, there must be some deep seeded issues and self-loathing. One has to wonder why there is so much of this among today’s single women. Could the 65 million abortions since Roe v. Wade have anything to do with this phenomenon? Is it possible that women who have willingly terminated a pregnancy harbor a residual feeling of unworthiness? It certainly is a possibility. Research has shown that mental problems, including depression, anxiety, and substance abuse, are increased by 81% for those who have aborted their unborn child.  

In a strange irony, these solo-gamists, by focusing exclusively on themselves, miss the one thing that could ultimately heal them—a loving and devoted relationship with the God of mercy, the ultimate healer of hearts and souls.

So, ladies, if you are feeling bad and need some self-love, skip the wedding with yourself and head to church. While you are there, join an outreach group and start helping others in need. With the focus off yourself, you will find true peace and joy.  This newfound joy will radiate out to those around you, and maybe you will meet a nice young Christian man with whom you can have a real wedding.

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